Friday, February 10, 2012

Global Citizenship: Whether You Like It or Not!



Child Labor in India. Dangerous pesticides in Brazil. Civil War in Somalia. Starvation in the Congo. Nuclear disaster in Japan. We pretend to care because we don’t want to sound ignorant or insensitive. We don’t want to be politically incorrect, but do we really care? Why should we?

As long as we eat blueberries grown in Peru and drink orange juice from Brazil… As long as we drive cars manufactured in Japan and pump oil into them from the Middle East… As long as we watch televisions and talk on phones made in South Korea … As long as we show off gold and diamonds dug up from the earth of West Africa… As long as our children play with toys and wear clothes labels “Made in China”… WE HAVE TO CARE.

There are over 1000 U.S. military bases in 38 countries around the world. Schools and hospitals in Afghanistan and Palestine are being bombed with ammunition marked “U.S.A.” Despite the media exposure, children and adults in West Africa are still losing lives and limbs working in mines for minimal wages so we can support our fetish for diamonds and gold.

How long will we continue to live life with our blinders on? You may not think you have a voice, but you do because one voice can inspire another voice and another until there are millions of voices demanding justice, transparency, and morality.

Do you want to know how your voice can be heard the loudest? With your dollars! Every U.S. dollar we spend will undoubtedly affect someone else in another part of the world. We are global citizens, whether we like it or not! And it’s about time we realize we have an obligation to our neighbors- whether they live in Mexico, Uganda, or Syria- to take responsibility for our words, our actions, and our economic power.

The next time you are watching the news and the biggest story is about celebrity so-and-so’s baby bump, or engagement, know that you are being numbed and distracted from what is really going on in the world. Certain powers would love it if we remained in our ignorant bliss. They would love you to think they know what they’re doing with YOUR TAX DOLLARS. They got it handled, right? Because us peasants are too dumb to really understand what’s going on at home and abroad anyway, right? WRONG!

I’m not telling you to jump in the nearest protest or picket line (although, it wouldn’t be such a horrible idea). I’m just saying: WAKE UP!

Sunday, December 4, 2011

I WAS JUST JOKING!


This one will be short and sweet, or bitter if you just want to be stubborn and not accept the fact that you are not perfect, and neither am I. I remember the first time someone brought it to my attention that I perhaps had a problem with speaking before I thought. It was an acquaintance in high school, "Krisheena, sometimes you really put your foot in your mouth." I was speechless. I had never been told this before, but I took it seriously and at that moment, I vowed to work on improving that aspect of my personality.  Well, I am still a work in progress.

Recently I said some things to friend "just joking,” justifying it in my mind because I meant no harm.  However, there has been a dark cloud over my head ever since. Even though, it was just in “fun,” the things I said were not nice, and this is not acceptable behavior of a believing woman. A joke should never be at someone else’s expense. So, I have am making a resolution to be mindful of the things I say. I will pretend I have a filter in my throat that won't allow any hurtful words to pass through. We would like to think it's cool to make fun of others, but it’s not, GOD said so!   


“O you who believe! Let not a group ridicule another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it to insult one’s brother after having Faith” (Surah Hujuraat 49:11)

A common excuse used by people who like to make fun of others is, “I’m not laughing at you, I’m laughing with you!” However, we must ask ourselves, is the other person really laughing?

Monday, November 21, 2011

The Hijab Obsession - Part I



I often will hear Muslim sisters (and brothers) say:

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing niqab (the face veil.)”

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing all black.”


And on the contrary, other sisters say…

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing pants.”

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing brightly colored clothes.”


Few Muslims would argue that the correct hijab for women is to cover everything except the face and hands, and not to wear anything that draws attention or flatters the figure. There might be some who will dispute this, but most Muslims and scholars subscribe to this understanding, even if they do not choose to adhere to it.

That being said, why is it that Muslim sisters are actually disgusted with one another and claim they can’t stand to see their fellow sisters dressed a certain way? We should be uplifting our sisters, instead of beating them down with our judgments and backbiting. Do you want to know what I can’t stand?

  • I can’t stand to see sisters in cliques; whispering and giggling while making other sisters feel alone.

  • I can’t stand to have a conversation about outer modesty, without considering also the inner modesty.

  • I can’t stand to see the Muslim community divided over something as simple as dress code.


Some of you will read this and say, why is she saying these things, is she undermining the importance of hijab? Quite the opposite, my sisters and brothers. I am simply trying to promote empathy and humility. When we make judgments of each other, we are creating a divide, and that is the last thing the Muslims need to do when we are living in a society that dislikes all of us, no matter how we dress.

I am also encouraging sisters and brothers to use proper adab (manners) when it comes to correcting each other. We are supposed to pull the misguided person aside and teach them the correct way. But before that, you have to check your own intention (why are you really correcting them?) and also check your own correctness (different schools of thought believe in different things, so just stick to the Qur’an and Sunnah) and have proof of your correction. However, I find many times we can lead by example, correcting our own misguided ways before approaching anyone else. If you talk about your sister/brother to others or say sarcastic remarks, your sin is worse than theirs.

Here is some fruitful guidance from the Qur’an:

And when they hear AlLaghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk), they withdraw from it and say: “To us our deeds, and to you your deeds. Peace be to you. We seek not the ignorant.”
(Surah Al-Qasas: Verse 55)

There is much more I’d like to share on this topic, so please check back for part II and perhaps part III, God-willing. Any good you can extract from this article is from Allah, and any bad from me. I pray that my intentions are good and that Allah will guide us on the straight path. AMEEN

Monday, November 7, 2011

ADDICTION



I am currently trying to help a dear friend of mine quit smoking. How can I help? I feel so helpless. She handed over her cigarettes to me and instead of throwing them away. So of course I felt compelled to do a photo-shoot with the long, slender cigs. Although the shots came out a bit fuzzy, it's interesting to look at these little white sticks and think about the great harm they have caused in so many people's lives. I do not understand what she is going through, but I am aware that nicotine addiction is one of the hardest to shake. Thank God, she is doing quite well with it. It’s obvious I’m a lot more nervous about the whole thing than the one who is giving up the habit.

So, this got me to thinking? What is addiction anyway? Why do we become addicted to things? We hear about all types of addictions in today’s society: nicotine, alcohol, narcotics, porn, food, caffeine, sex, gambling, internet, prescription medications… and the list goes on. When do bad habits and rituals cross the line into addiction? Why do we harmful things to our bodies and our sprits for a quick moment of satisfaction?

Addiction is defined on dictionary.com as, “the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.”

So this is serious. We are talking trauma to the mind and body. ENSLAVEMENT! It is so easy for us to judge someone because they are an addict of something, but do we really understand the plight of someone who is so physically and/emotionally attached to something that they are willing to cause injury to themselves and their families. And who is to say we are not dealing with our own addictions…

Some of you are addicted to facebook.com as you read this blog. Others are addicted to shopping, and these addictions should be taken seriously. Take a look at these syptoms of addiction, and you might be surprised at how things can creep into your life and slowly take it over with you barely realizing.

Signs of addiction:
  • You’re neglecting your responsibilities at school, work, or home (e.g. flunking classes, skipping work, neglecting your children) because of your obsessive activity.
  • Your activity is getting you into legal trouble, such as arrests for disorderly conduct, driving under the influence, or stealing to support your habit.
  • Your obsession is causing problems in your relationships, such as fights with your partner or family members, an unhappy boss, or the loss of old friends.
  • You take do something that’s hurting you to avoid the feeling of withdrawal. If you go too long without it, you experience symptoms such as nausea, restlessness, insomnia, depression, sweating, shaking, and anxiety.
  • You’ve lost control over your involvement. You may want to stop doing it, but you feel powerless.
  • Your life revolves around the activity. You spend a lot of time thinking about it, figuring out how and when you will partake in the activity again.
  • You’ve abandoned activities you used to enjoy, such as hobbies, sports, and socializing, because of your drug use.
  • You continue the activity, despite knowing it’s hurting you.
  • Your partaking in the activity is pulling you away from what is good for you. You stopped praying and other spiritual activities that in the past had brought you peace and solace. 
I pray you are not dealing with any addictions, but if you are here are a few words of encouragement:
1.        You are worthy. Your worth is NOT based on your addiction.
2.        You can quit. You are a survivor. The addiction is weak and you are strong.
3.        You are loved. GOD LOVES YOU, so does anyone else really matter?
4.        Get help. Seek out someone you can trust or a group.
5.        Weed out the negative influences in your life. You deserve to be surrounded by positivity.

And if that wasn’t enough, here’s a word from your Lord, from the Glorious Quran:

They ask you about intoxicants and gambling. Say: There is great ithm (harm) in both. (2:219)

Believers! wine and games of chance, idols and divining arrows, are abominations devised by Satan. Turn away from them. (5:90)

Do not approach any immorality, open or covert. (6:151)



Monday, October 31, 2011

You Should Celebrate Holloween If...


1. You are a Pagan
2. You want to honor Samhain, the Celtic "lord of death"
3.You are interested in entertaining evil spirits who demand a feast and sweets
4. You are certain that if you don't entertain these spirits, they will reak havoc on you for a year to come
5. October 31st is your New Years Eve.
6. You need to thank the sun god for providing a good harvest
7. Sacrificing animals if fun
8. You would like to dress your child up as an animal because you know human spirits live in animals
9. You want to bob for apples to see into the future
10. You just can't stand the fact that ole' drunken Jack will lose his way to a final resting place if you don't carve a scary face in a pumpkin and put a candle in it!

Most people don't believe in any of this nonsense, yet they still celebrate. Why? Because it's fun? Because you don't want your kids to be left out? Educate your family on the real meaning of Holloween and perhaps it won't appear so appealing. Sometimes we choose ignorance over knowledge because we think it is easier, but is it? Perhaps it will be easy to free our minds by corrcting our actions. Say no to Halloween and other ridiculous holidays.

Guidance From the Quran

"When it is said unto them, 'Come to what Allah has revealed, come to the Messenger,' they say, 'Enough for us are the ways we found our fathers following.' What! Even though their fathers were void of knowledge and guidance?" (Qur'an 5:104)

"Has not the time arrived for the believers, that their hearts in all humility should engage in the remembrance of Allah and of the Truth which has been revealed to them? That they should not become like those to whom was given the Book aforetime, but long ages passed over them and their hearts grew hard? For many among them are rebellious transgressors." (Qur'an 57:16)

Monday, October 24, 2011

Puberty on facebook.com



 Yes, I have a facebook profile. I have a love/hate relationship with facebook.com. I love being able to stay in touch with family and friends who I would have otherwise lost contact because they are not in my immediate circle. I also find it cool to be able to connect with people I have never met who share similar interest. We can join forums, share knowledge or even support revolutions!
However, there are many very troubling aspects of facebook. To keep this post short, I will focus on just one: teens and preteens growing up IN FRONT OF THE WORLD. Teens, perhaps more-so than adults, happen to be very trustworthy of social networking sites. I suppose that is because of two elements:

1. They grew up in this digital world, and so facebook to them would be what my diary and photo album was to me as a teenager.

 2. Teens are naïve due to an immature brain (literally) and lack of experience in life.

I am constantly in awe at the gull teens have when posting on their statuses their personal business, photos and grotesque language. I’m the first to admit I was NO ANGEL as a teen. But only a handful of friends were a witness to my behavior. All of the incidents were isolated by time and the number of people who knew. The only way my parents or any gown up could find out about my mischief, was if someone told on me, and then it would still be their word against mine. But with facebook, the information is out there, and is owned by facebook.com. Any status update can be used against you, whether it’s now of in the future.

Facebook has revolutionized growing up. Many times I have checked my homepage and seen grotesque language and pictures posted by youth who are either my family or acquaintances. Other times, the postings are not grotesque, but they are deeply personal. They say things that I know the young person would not want thousands of people to know. But the truth is, unless you only have a friend list only of people you talk to on an everyday basis, you should not post these type of things because facebook’s privacy is very NOT private. Ever Google your name and see your profile pic? Even with the security settings, we must be more aware.

And it’s not just teens. I was just thinking how I’ve been “friending” a lot of Muslim Sisters – at least they say they’re Muslim sister hmm? - on my page. I do not personally know most of these sisters, yet they can view pictures of my baby shower and 2010 vacation. Would I show a stranger my hardcopy photo album? No, I would not. But I figure since I’m covered up, it okay. But, is it okay? Or is it just the norm that we’ve gotten used to in this digital age where private is now public and public is worldwide?
Food for thought.


Saturday, October 8, 2011

Spiritual Growth



Have you been reciting the same four surahs of the Quran or Biblical passages for the past ten years? Have you been using the same hadith to defend a certain thing you do/ do not do since you started practicing Islam? Are you a Christian that has never been to a different church and never met new people who may worship the Lord differently than you? Well, I think it is time for some spiritual growth.


Typical scenario: woman is searching for the meaning of life > she does much research looking into different religions > she finds Islam and is intrigued and enlightened > she takes classes, studying the deen day and night and is inspired > woman embraces Islam as her religion > woman finds a masjid, makes friends, marries, and Whamo! Contentment creeps in. She still loves the deen, but the vigor she once had to better herself and learn more about her religion has subsided.

We can find a million and one excuses to not learn more and then as the years go by, slowly but surely our contentment turns into stubbornness and arrogance. And this goes for converts and well as those born into the religion. A sister who was born into a Muslim family once told me, “When you are raised in a Muslim household, it is important that you rediscover the religion as an adult.” The sister warned, for those who do not continue to learn into adulthood, their Islam can be a confusion of culture, ritual and heresy.

It is important that we in the human race grow and develop. Stagnation of the mind and the spirit can be a very dangerous thing. This is how racism and prejudice become imbedded into a culture; when people don’t educate themselves, they will adhere to the ways of old, without any real reasoning or contemplation on their part.

Idleness is the enemy. Every second that goes by should be devoted to something constructive. Whether it is taking on a new language, painting, feeding the homeless or just good old fashioned reading, we much keep our minds active. If we train our minds to seek knowledge constantly in the secular world, we will automatically yearn to seek knowledge and understanding in the spiritual world. We will ask questions and we will enjoy looking for the answers.

And Surah Luqman makes it clear:

31:6      But there are, among men, those who purchase idle tales, without knowledge (or meaning), to mislead (men) from the Path of Allah and throw ridicule (on the Path): for such there will be a Humiliating Penalty.

31:7      When Our Signs are rehearsed to such a one, he turns away in arrogance, as if he heard them not, as if there were deafness in both his ears: announce to him a grievous Penalty.

Friday, September 30, 2011

TOTAL DOMINATION



I do not feel that I should do everything possible to overthrow any existing totalitarian state. It is not my moral responsibility to interject in every unethical occurrence in every nation on Earth. However, it is imperative to be educated on which injustices are being practiced in a totalitarian state, and to know if the government of such a state is violating certain human liberties. These basic liberties would include the right to sustain life without feeling threatened by one’s own government when working, pursuing an education, or pursuing a family life. Even after it is established that wrongs are being done, we should speak on it before we act on it. We should only act on it if we have the resources and manpower to do so without inflicting too much damage to our own military and economy.

Furthermore, no individual can confront a totalitarian state and change it; it takes a mass movement to do that. And because of extenuating economic conditions, America should choose its fights wisely. There is a United Nations and there are international laws, treaties, diplomacy and negotiations which can be used to settle internal disputes within a country and conflicts between countries. The best example would be our current war in Iraq, which started under the guise that we were to destroy Saddam Hussein’s totalitarian regime and his alleged weapons of mass destruction. Many Americans were so mislead about the conflict, they thought Hussein was behind the horrors of 9/11.

           September 11, 2001 was a terrifying day for Americans and many other citizens of the world. But it is important to know the facts and adhere to international laws, to ensure the best possible moral outcome for all people involved in such a conflict. The people of the United States were told that the U.S. had to invade Iraq because its leader, Saddam Hussein, had Weapons of Mass Destruction. Congress did not hold hearings or investigations. In the media, there was no discussion on whether the U.S. should or should not go to war. An international inspection team had been allowed to look for evidence of these WMD’ s but found nothing. President Bush and Secretary of State Collin Powell said the U.S. had proof and proceeded to bomb and invade Iraq. No Weapons of Mass Destruction were ever found.

As a result, the reason for the Iraq War changed to “getting rid of the totalitarian dictator, Saddam Hussein, and bringing democracy to the people of Iraq.” But in fact, for years the US supported and was a friend of Saddam Hussein and it never mattered how he governed his country. However, oil was a big concern for the United States. Iraq’s oil, which had been nationalized under Saddam Hussein, was privatized and now is controlled by foreign oil companies. Iraq did not threaten the United States. What was the real reason for the Iraq War? In this 2008 New York Times editorial article, the confusion and deception behind the war in Iraq is made clear:

It took just a few months after the United States’ invasion of Iraq for the world to find out that Saddam Hussein had long abandoned his nuclear, biological and chemical weapons programs. He was not training terrorists or colluding with Al Qaeda. The only real threat he posed was to his own countrymen.

Not only was it morally wrong to invade Iraq but also illegal and financially destructive to our country. The current war in Iraq/ Afghanistan / Pakistan is projected to cost 3 trillion dollars, most borrowed from China, thus adding to the national debt and deficit.  Hundreds of thousands of Iraqis have died. Several million Iraqis have fled to other neighboring countries or are homeless in Iraq. More than 4,000 US soldiers have been killed. This is the price of war. And yet, there have been little ethical/moral conquests. Are the Iraqi people better off now? Is the United States better off now?

On the surface, it might seem difficult to draw a parallel between the invasion of Iraq and the invasion of Nazi Germany. However, when history is more closely examined, there are similarities. In the case with the Nazi regime in the 1930s and 1940s, the US entered the World War II against Nazi Germany after it invaded many European countries. There was ethnic and religious discrimination against Jews in all European countries and in the United States before Nazi Germany existed. Many people in the US and Europe supported the racial superiority beliefs of Nazi Germany. At first these countries ignored the widespread racism and discrimination. Then they realized that world domination was the goal of Nazi Germany and at point became resolute on going to war against Germany, Japan and Italy. There are indications that the United States is trying to dominate the world today by interfering in other countries and “spreading democracy.”

So, what may seem to be ethical and moral strategy, might actually turn out to be economic and political strategy. Yet, whatever the political reasoning, interjection from nations opposing totalitarianism was necessary to end the horror of concentration camps. If the United States and other countries had not stood up against the fascist beliefs of Adolf Hitler, millions more human lives would have surely been brought to a senseless end. The Nazi party had achieved what Arendt branded as “total domination,” and it had to be destroyed on all levels before it spread any further. The idea of total domination is horrific in nature; totalitarianism is usually associated with violence, but the terrors going on in concentration camps were despicable beyond belief.

In this passage, Hannah Arendt explains the premise behind concentration camps:

Totalitarian domination attempts to achieve this goal both through ideological indoctrination- the testing ground in which the latter must prove itself- while the appalling spectacle of the camps themselves is supposed to furnish the “theoretical” verification of the ideology.   (Arendt, p. 124. pp. 2)

In conclusion, yes I stand up against totalitarian regimes.  However, war is a strong gesture, and we should try all other means of action before we go to war, even against a totalitarian regime. Sometimes the answers to our questions cannot be seen on the 6 o’ clock news. As citizens of a democracy and citizens of the world, it is our duty to be sure our government is acting in a way that is both moral and ethical. If we are not careful, the United States could be the next nation to be subscribing to ideals of Total Domination.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

End The WAR: Cut the Deficit


As the tenth anniversary of 9/11 has come and gone, the question on the minds of many Americans becomes, When is the war going to end? Personally, I have been asking this question since the war began, but now I am joined by many other fellow American citizens in these hard economic times. Whatever your opinion regarding the conflict in Iraq, Afghanistan and Pakistan- denoted “War on Terror”- it is evident that resolution would decrease our national debt and greatly decrease the troubling deficit. It is estimated that the war will cost over 3 trillion dollars total. Some sources even project the cost to be closer to 4 trillion.

When we think of war cost, we might think military payroll, transportation and housing; and also guns, tanks, bombs, aircraft, ships, missiles, and medical expenses for the troops. But there are many more costs attached to this war. There are the ongoing costs for veterans who might live sixty or seventy more years who have suffered debilitating mental and physical war wounds. Those costs can amount to billions.

There are billions of dollars being spent on not-so-obvious bills, like energy. The heat in the Afghanistan desert can reach up to 125° F, and air-conditioning is costing billions just to keep our troops somewhat comfortable. And in an NPR interview, the former chief logistician for Gen. David Petraeus explains:

"When you consider the cost to deliver the fuel to some of the most isolated places in the world — escorting, command and control, medevac support — when you throw all that infrastructure in, we're talking over $20 billion," Steven Anderson tells weekends on All Things Considered guest host Rachel Martin.”

There is also the issue of where the money is coming from. Unfortunately for the United States, it is all being borrowed, much of it from China. “We have borrowed virtually all of the money that has been used to pay for the Iraq and Afghanistan conflicts, and that has been very expensive, adding at least $1.5 trillion to our national debt," Linda Bilmes, an economist with Harvard University told the Huffington Post in a July interview.

President George W. Bush started the war in Iraq on the premise that Sadaam Hussein had concealed “weapons of mass destruction.” In the spring of 2005, it was officially announced that there were no weapons of mass destruction in Iraq. However, the troops remained and the costs continued to soar. Barack Obama was elected in 2008 and the war continued, on the premise of finding Osama Bin Laden “dead or alive.” Bin Laden was found and killed earlier this year. Why are we still fighting? Who or what are we looking for now? If there is no clear answer to this question, let’s get out before any more lives are lost. Let’s get out to save our troops, our economy, and our dedication to higher moral principles.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

What will YOUR legacy be?

How will I be remembered? Will they say...

 "That was a really humble sister. She always gave to the needy and was always upbeat."
"She had a great sense of humor and was serious about her deen."
"She was a selfless wife and mother, always putting her family before herself."
"She will be missed."
"May Allah grant her a spacious grave and forgive her of her sins."

OR will they say this,

"That sister was boastful and arrogant. She never gave charity, not even a smile."
"My mother never had time for us, she was always too busy doing things for herself."
"Who is that sister?"
"I think I saw her at the Masjid only for Eids."
"May Allah forgive her of her sins."

Surah 2:156 "To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return."


Everyone wants to be remembered as a "good person." But are we thinking about this fact when we are backbiting, lying and deceiving, being ungrateful, and doing lots of other things that are displeasing to OUR LORD. Are we thinking at all? Are we being conscience of our words and our actions? Our thoughts?  Or are we so wrapped up in all the petty things in this society of deception that we forget what is really important? .... Pleasing Allah! With another Ramadan past, God-willing, we have been purified, and we have become better people. 


I want my legacy to be one of selflessness and charity. One of intellect; both secular and religious. I want my good deeds to inspire others to do good deeds. And I want to be inspired by others to do good as well. I want my legacy to live on through my children and grandchildren, inshaAllah.


Some people believe we are living in  the END OF DAYS. Well, I say my last day could be today or in seventy years, but NOW is the best time to change my ways. 

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Let's Talk About the WAR



I admit, talking about the war in Iraq/Afghanistan (Lybia??) can be daunting. There's a lot of confusion and a lot of deception because the war is so highly political and economical. Okay, let me start over. I don't know much about the war, but I do know something ain't right!!

With the tenth anniversary of 9/11 in a few days, I'd like take a step back a take a good look on how America has gotten to this place of confusion. There are hate groups coming out of the shadows. Our economy is plundering, as millions of people are without work. Our young military troops are being killed and maimed and mentally scarred... and for what? Weapons of mass destruction? Oh yeah, that turned out to be a complete LIE.

I am currently taking a Political Science class in college, and will be taking it upon myself to learn more about the war and the oil money politics behind it. So, join me over the next few months as I explore why it seems that the U.S. seems to enjoy destroying the lands and lives of Muslims in the East in the name of democracy.


Saturday, August 27, 2011

Keeping an EYE on IRENE

Hurricane Irene, biggest in Philly since the 1970s

Hurricane Irene closes down East Coast
Hurricane Irene is on her way! I have been fortunate to not experience any natural diasters in all of my twenty seven years on this earth. All we've heard for the past three days was IRENE IRENE IRENE. Hurricane Irene is the biggest storm to hit the Eastern seaboard in fifty years. It's mere size is dauting, covering a sqare milage comparible to the continent of Europe. Now there are tonados stirring and floods from North Carolina on up the East Coast. I was excited at first. But I must admit my giddiness has turned into nervousnes. It is only a category 1 storm, so many of us did not take it seriously. But when the entire Jersey Coast is on a Mandatory evacuation and many parts of Lower Manhattan are evacuated for the first time in history, I start to worry.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

The Spirit of Ramadan

The English translation of the Qur'an spells it out quite clearly in Surah Al-Baqarah:

183. O you who believe! Observing As-Saum (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqun (the pious - see V.2:2).

184. [Observing Saum (fasts)] for a fixed number of days, but if any of you is ill or on a journey, the same number (should be made up) from other days. And as for those who can fast with difficulty, (e.g. an old man, etc.), they have (a choice either to fast or) to feed a Miskin (poor person) (for every day). But whoever does good of his own accord, it is better for him. And that you fast, it is better for you if only you knew.

So what if you are nursing? Or taking medication? Or sickly? Or traveling? How do you maintain the spirit of Ramadan? Should you punish yourself by fasting when your body is giving you all the signs that the fast would not be beneficial for you?

No food and No drink from sunrise to sunset
 Hey, I'm not talking about people who are just really hungry, no thats your tummy talking, go read some Qur'an and ask Allah for strength- keep up the good work, may Allah make the fast easy on you and increase your Iman!
I'm saying if you have a valid excuse for not fasting from food, how do you maintain the spiritual fast? When your stomach is aching, it is a big reminder that you need to be more humble, give charity, pray harder, and read qur'an and hadith. When you are fasting in these long summer days, you will be inclined to search for peace, inshaAllah. But if you're eating, there is little reminder it is even the blessed month of Ramadan! Especially if you are secluded from other Muslims for whatever reason.

Here are 5 tips to stay focused:

1. Wake up for Fajr, and ask Allah to increase your Iman

2. Make a schedule. ie: 5a.m., fajr 5:15 -6a.m. read surah Al-Baqarah... 12 p.m. lunch 12:30-1p.m. read Hadith from Sahih Muslim. Stick to your schedule! and if something comes up, have make-up slots in your day.

3. Go to iftars. Be around the fasters - support your brothers and sisters - learn with them, feed them! It would be benefit you to surround yourself with people who are serious about Islam. There are many benefits to be reaped from the fast, but if you can't withhold from food and drink, try to get some of that piety to rub off on you by attending iftars and taraweh prayers.

4. Eat light healthy meals high in Omega-3 fatty acids. This is BRAIN FOOD.

5. Restrict television, as a matter of a fact, just leave it off because it can be a MAJOR distraction, as can be the internet. However, if you have small children, it is easy to watch Islamic songs and documentaries that teach about Islam and Ramadan either on DVD or www.Youtube.com. And the internet can be a great way to learn surahs of the qur'an on sites like http://www.mounthira.com/ and listen to lectures.

6. Think before you speak or act! It's Ramadan Muslims! Don't backbite! Don't cuss! Don't gossip or tell lies! DO be nice. DO help a person in need. DO feed a hungry person. DO go out of your way to say and do things in your everyday life that are pleasing to Allah. DO SMILE :-))

Okay Muslims, just thought I'd give a little inspiration in these last ten day of Ramadan 2011. May Allah reward the fasters! And may Allah reward those who persevere for the sake of pleasing Allah! Ameen.



SHAHADA...SALAT...ZAKAT...SAWM...HAJJ...
declaration of faith...prayer...charity...fasting...pilgrimage

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Today's Muslim Woman

Okay, so the title sounds a bit cheesy, or maybe even a little too "media friendly", but don't fear. I have no intention of pigeon-holing American Muslim women and declaring "who we are" or "what we want" because the beauty of being a Muslimah in America is that we are all so different. We are different in our perceptions of Islam and we are different in our dress and family values. However, we have major similaries: we believe that there is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. Ameen!

So actually this post is more a question than an answer. What is important to YOU, beautiful Muslim woman? Or the Muslimahs you know? I have met many sisters that believe education is paramount. They believe getting a B.A. or even a Ph. D. is a necessity before embarking on the path towards bullding a marriage and family. They will often echo the words of the Prophet Muhammad (saws) "Seek knowledge, even in China" and "Seek Knowledge, from the cradle to the grave."

Being self-sufficient is important to many Muslim Women. They hold the example of the Prophet Muhammad's (saws) first wife Khadijah who was a prominent businesswoman in her time. She was also the most beloved of all the Phophet's wives.

Then there are the Muslimahs that believe that finding a husband and starting a family is the paramount for the Muslim woman. These women have a great deal of evidence from Qur'an and Sunnah that for Muslim women, our blessings will be recieved in the home. "The Prophet (saws) stated: 'Whoever chooses to follow my tradition must get married and produce offspring through marriage (and increase the population of Muslims) so that on the day of resurrection I shall confront other Ummah (nations) with the (great) numbers of my Ummah."

Many Muslim women in the West find a happy medium, trying to balance work, education and married life. But, being one of those women-ha ha!- it can be exhausting! I'm just being truthful. So what do I want for my daughters? I don't know. Perhaps I can raise them the best I know how according to this beautiful deen of Al-Islam and just pray Allah has Mercy on my girls, guiding them on the path that's best for them.

Your opinion is appreciated!



Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Moving Beyond the Hijab

Yes, I have decided to change the name of my blog from 'Digging for Knowledge' to 'Not Just Another Hijab Blog.' I have nothing against hijab/fashion blogs, in fact I follow a few myself. However, as a Muslimah, I find that the discussion amongst and about Muslimahs is much too often about hijab.

What is the correct hijab? To hijab or not to hijab? What colors are acceptable for women? How much of a woman has to be covered? What does hijab say about a Muslim woman's faith? What age to start our daughters wearing hijab? What are the latest hijab fashions?

All of these questions are quite valid, and a mountain of opinions are floating around the web on these topics. So, I just wanted to let everyone know that this is NOT just another hijab blog, because there are enough of those. My blog is to wander and explore a variety of topics; everything from faith to history to current events.

So, I thank all of you for being interested in reading a blog that is NOT centered around the way Muslim women dress :)

Judge Not!

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Niqab: Oppression or Liberation?


Niqab: a face veil covering the lower part of the face (up to the eyes) worn by observant Muslim women

Oppression: the state of being kept down by unjust use of force or authority

Liberation: To set free, as from oppression, confinement, or foreign control

When I think of oppression, I think of slavery, prejudice, inequality, dictatorship, rape, abuse, lesser race, caste and class, the MAN, voting rights, civil rights, misogynist, and so on. So the question stands, can a niqab, a piece of cloth placed over the face, become a vehicle for oppression? Well, of course it can. Just like a miniskirt, or a haircut, or a room in a house.

Compairing the niqab to the miniskirt.

If a person of authority forces a woman to wear a mini-skirt every day, in order to make her feel used and worthless, the mini-skirt, a piece of fabric, then becomes a vehicle for oppression. It gets tricky when one tries to determine what actions fall under “force”. In America, we live in a society that is over sexualized. This is not an extreme statement; this is a common sense statement. Sex is everywhere: shows, movies, commercials, newsstands, street corners, schools, workplaces, and even places of worship. We live in an age where sex-scandals are top news-stories. These scandals have no limits- pastors and congressmen caught in homosexual acts, celebrities committing adultery with porn-stars and prostitutes, and let’s not forget about the molesting priests.

One would think a society with so much sexual deviance would try to counter this behavior with positive reinforcement. Perhaps a troubled society like this would encourage their young women and men to have decency and respect for their bodies. But this is just an ideology. The truth is that on the cover every popular teen magazine, you will find titles like, “Wanted List: Mod Mini-Skirts” (promoting the shortest skirts paired with platform stiletto heels) and “How to Make Out” (a complete detailed guide on tongue kissing).

Yet some women will argue that dressing sexy is a form of liberation. These women will say it is their right to bare their bodies and the female body is something that should be celebrated and not covered up. Buying into this concept might be easy if there were no such thing as “the glass ceiling”, sexual harassment, eating disorders, and the constant sexual objectification of teen girls and women on almost every media outlet.

The niqab is a relatively new concept in the west. Until recently, Americans would be most familiar with the face veiling from episodes of I Dream of Jeanni or from images of seductive and mysterious belly dancers from various films.

However, in these post 9/11 times, images of the niqab come to the west in forms of Afghan women covered in head-to-toe burqas in worn-torn Afghanitan. We read and watch news stories about women who are confined to their homes, not allowed to go to school or work. We read about young women falling victim to honor-killings and forced nuptials. Images of veiled women being beaten in the streets for having their ankles exposed immediately resurface when the American thinks about the niqab.

The trick question: What about American niqabbis? Not only immigrant women, but many American Muslim converts have adopted the niqab to demonstrate modesty and rebellion against a sexed-up culture. Some of these women even consider the niqab as a symbol of feminist liberation, taking back their rights over their bodies and the way society judges them. Some Western societies feel the niqab as being an threat, and have actually banned the garmet. This is one thing mini skirt wearers won’t have to worry about unless they visit Saudi-Arabia or another country where there are modesty laws in place for women.

“Their husbands force them to wear it”, “They are oppressing themselves”, “They have no identity.” Sure, these sentiments could be true of some women who don the niqab, just as the exact same sentiments could be true of a woman who sports a mini skirt. When it comes down to it, a piece of cloth cannot oppress a woman. A government, a society, an employer, husband, or father: they can oppress. They can misuse their authority to keep women down by denying them education and filling their minds with the words of men, instead of the words of God.

Society can oppress by portraying an unattainable image of what beauty should be and shove it down the throats of young impressionable girls and women everyday through every vessel. Oppressive husbands use insults and physical domination to hold down their women. A niqab, a miniskirt, an advertisement, a written or unwritten law, and sexist epithets are just a few examples of the devices for which oppressors can use to make women feel and exist as a lesser gender.

Do you get it? We are focusing on the wrong thing! Niqab? Mini-skirt? These things mean nothing. Educating minds and nurturing souls should be at the forefront of discussion. Let a woman have confidence. Let her believe in her God-given attributes. Let her build up her character and her faith and connection to God. By always focusing on what a woman is wearing or not wearing, we are encouraging the actions of the oppressors. We are tearing down the fragile state of the teenage girl, who is just beginning to figure out where her place is in the world. By empowering our women, we are empowering our societies. By oppressing our women, we are oppressing mankind.

The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him:
“Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother.” (Ahmad, Nasai)

Judge Not!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The Meaning of Thanksgiving




I hate to be the one to ruin everybody's festivities, but where truth lies, it must be uncovered. What is thanksgiving? What does it represent? In school we were taught about the Mayflower and a wonderful feast between the Native Americans and the Pilgrims. The truth? Yes Native Americans, like Squanto, taught the Europeans all about this "new world" and how to cultivate it. What did they get in return for their services? 93 epidemics between 1520 and 1918, including 41 eruptions of smallpox. European disease wiped out 95% of the East Coastal tribal population. What else did the Europeans "give" to the Natives? Destroying their land, their bison, and their culture. Enslavement and indentured servants.

Okay, so maybe Thanksgiving is engraved in your family tradition, and it's a time of year when everyone has off of work and school and the whole family gets together to create memories and good times. Would it be too much to ask to say a prayer for the fallen civilizations Of aboriginal Americans, like the Iroquois and Seminoles and the displaced Natives of the Mississippi Ohio area like the Osage, Kaw, Ponca and Omaha? Say a prayer for them and for their descendants, who are still feeling the devastating effects of those European settlers.

As for me? I want to be with my family. I want to eat and be joyful, but can I really celebrate the destruction of someone else's culture? Which is a part of my culture, being able to trace the Cherokee blood in my own ancestry. Many Native Americans look at Thanksgiving as a day of mourning. I will never look at Turkey day the same again.

Judge Not!

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Finding Peace through Faith, Family, and Creativity


Sometimes Life seems to be moving incredibly fast. It just seems like we are going through the motions without stopping to think or reflect. Sometimes life can seem to be hectic and overwhelming. At these times frustration can overshadow appreciation and patience. Negativity can outweigh positivity... but only if we let it.

What are the things that bring you peace? The things that bring you peace are the things that bring you joy when your situation appears to be grim. The things that bring you peace lift you up when your spirit is dragging on the ground. Your fire is lit; you are recharged; you are ready to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and face the world with a renewed optimism.

These are the things that bring me peace:

Wudu and Prayer: Wudu is the process Muslims preform of cleaning oneself before the prayer. This ablution purifies both the body and the spirit. Salat is the prayer preformed by Muslims five times a day (or at least we try!). For me the actual motions of standing and prostrating to my Lord while reciting the Arabic prayer brings a tranquility over my being.

My daughter I would be lying if I said my almost two-year-old was a constant source of tranquility! However, the undying love and appreciation she shows towards me is so terrific! And her smile and infectious laugh are instant mood lifters!

Writing: Everyone needs an outlet, and for me that is writing. Whether it be poetry, short stories, journal entries or blogs; writing has always been there for me- a constant companion through the good and the bad times.

Judge Not!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

A Blogger's Life...


Hey everybody! I haven't written in my blog in such a long time! But don't worry, I haven't stopped writing. I've been taking Eng 101 and Eng 223. The latter is a creative writing class, and I must say it is much more challenging than I imagined. We have to write short stories(5-15 pgs.)which is really fun. The not so fun part is getting all the criticism from the teacher and the other classmates. Even though I must say, I have grown to appreciate the constructive criticism.

Anyways, the reason I brought this up is because my stories have always had Muslim characters. I purposely did this just to show that Muslims are humans that experience life with all its ups and downs just like everyone else. However, some of the responses I've received from my classmates are disparaging. In one story, the husband was not supportive of his wife, and I got a comment saying that was indicative of the Muslim "culture" (ignorant of the fact Muslims come from a vast number of cultures). So my next story had a really supportive husband, and I was told that was "unrealistic because Muslim women are not respected by their husbands." The student went on to admit that all she knew about Muslims was from the negative media reports, and in those reports "Muslim women have to bow down to their husbands."

I must say, I have never heard that particular thing said about Muslim women, but it is often implied in the media that Muslim women are "living in the shadows" of their male counterparts. So I'm left at a crossroad- How can I relate the American-Muslim experience to people who are so brainwashed about Islam, that they won't even entertain the thought of Muslims being "normal" people? I have some ideas... I'll keep you updated!

Judge Not!

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Is That a Bomb in Your Pants or Are You Just Happy To See Me?















Nigerian Bomber, Umar Farouk Abdulmuttalib, AKA "Hot Pants" tried to commit acts of terrorism on December 25, 2009.

I wanted to take this opportunity to say that this sexually frustrated, Islamically adrift, coo-coo young man is not a person would I would feel sorry for, look up to, or be proud of in any matter.

Anyone who puts a bomb in there britches in the name of Islam is truly lost...

... Did he learn nothing from Wiley Coyote?

-Judge Not!