Sunday, December 4, 2011

I WAS JUST JOKING!


This one will be short and sweet, or bitter if you just want to be stubborn and not accept the fact that you are not perfect, and neither am I. I remember the first time someone brought it to my attention that I perhaps had a problem with speaking before I thought. It was an acquaintance in high school, "Krisheena, sometimes you really put your foot in your mouth." I was speechless. I had never been told this before, but I took it seriously and at that moment, I vowed to work on improving that aspect of my personality.  Well, I am still a work in progress.

Recently I said some things to friend "just joking,” justifying it in my mind because I meant no harm.  However, there has been a dark cloud over my head ever since. Even though, it was just in “fun,” the things I said were not nice, and this is not acceptable behavior of a believing woman. A joke should never be at someone else’s expense. So, I have am making a resolution to be mindful of the things I say. I will pretend I have a filter in my throat that won't allow any hurtful words to pass through. We would like to think it's cool to make fun of others, but it’s not, GOD said so!   


“O you who believe! Let not a group ridicule another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it to insult one’s brother after having Faith” (Surah Hujuraat 49:11)

A common excuse used by people who like to make fun of others is, “I’m not laughing at you, I’m laughing with you!” However, we must ask ourselves, is the other person really laughing?

Monday, November 21, 2011

The Hijab Obsession - Part I



I often will hear Muslim sisters (and brothers) say:

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing niqab (the face veil.)”

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing all black.”


And on the contrary, other sisters say…

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing pants.”

“I can’t stand to see sisters wearing brightly colored clothes.”


Few Muslims would argue that the correct hijab for women is to cover everything except the face and hands, and not to wear anything that draws attention or flatters the figure. There might be some who will dispute this, but most Muslims and scholars subscribe to this understanding, even if they do not choose to adhere to it.

That being said, why is it that Muslim sisters are actually disgusted with one another and claim they can’t stand to see their fellow sisters dressed a certain way? We should be uplifting our sisters, instead of beating them down with our judgments and backbiting. Do you want to know what I can’t stand?

  • I can’t stand to see sisters in cliques; whispering and giggling while making other sisters feel alone.

  • I can’t stand to have a conversation about outer modesty, without considering also the inner modesty.

  • I can’t stand to see the Muslim community divided over something as simple as dress code.


Some of you will read this and say, why is she saying these things, is she undermining the importance of hijab? Quite the opposite, my sisters and brothers. I am simply trying to promote empathy and humility. When we make judgments of each other, we are creating a divide, and that is the last thing the Muslims need to do when we are living in a society that dislikes all of us, no matter how we dress.

I am also encouraging sisters and brothers to use proper adab (manners) when it comes to correcting each other. We are supposed to pull the misguided person aside and teach them the correct way. But before that, you have to check your own intention (why are you really correcting them?) and also check your own correctness (different schools of thought believe in different things, so just stick to the Qur’an and Sunnah) and have proof of your correction. However, I find many times we can lead by example, correcting our own misguided ways before approaching anyone else. If you talk about your sister/brother to others or say sarcastic remarks, your sin is worse than theirs.

Here is some fruitful guidance from the Qur’an:

And when they hear AlLaghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk), they withdraw from it and say: “To us our deeds, and to you your deeds. Peace be to you. We seek not the ignorant.”
(Surah Al-Qasas: Verse 55)

There is much more I’d like to share on this topic, so please check back for part II and perhaps part III, God-willing. Any good you can extract from this article is from Allah, and any bad from me. I pray that my intentions are good and that Allah will guide us on the straight path. AMEEN

Monday, November 7, 2011

ADDICTION



I am currently trying to help a dear friend of mine quit smoking. How can I help? I feel so helpless. She handed over her cigarettes to me and instead of throwing them away. So of course I felt compelled to do a photo-shoot with the long, slender cigs. Although the shots came out a bit fuzzy, it's interesting to look at these little white sticks and think about the great harm they have caused in so many people's lives. I do not understand what she is going through, but I am aware that nicotine addiction is one of the hardest to shake. Thank God, she is doing quite well with it. It’s obvious I’m a lot more nervous about the whole thing than the one who is giving up the habit.

So, this got me to thinking? What is addiction anyway? Why do we become addicted to things? We hear about all types of addictions in today’s society: nicotine, alcohol, narcotics, porn, food, caffeine, sex, gambling, internet, prescription medications… and the list goes on. When do bad habits and rituals cross the line into addiction? Why do we harmful things to our bodies and our sprits for a quick moment of satisfaction?

Addiction is defined on dictionary.com as, “the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.”

So this is serious. We are talking trauma to the mind and body. ENSLAVEMENT! It is so easy for us to judge someone because they are an addict of something, but do we really understand the plight of someone who is so physically and/emotionally attached to something that they are willing to cause injury to themselves and their families. And who is to say we are not dealing with our own addictions…

Some of you are addicted to facebook.com as you read this blog. Others are addicted to shopping, and these addictions should be taken seriously. Take a look at these syptoms of addiction, and you might be surprised at how things can creep into your life and slowly take it over with you barely realizing.

Signs of addiction:
  • You’re neglecting your responsibilities at school, work, or home (e.g. flunking classes, skipping work, neglecting your children) because of your obsessive activity.
  • Your activity is getting you into legal trouble, such as arrests for disorderly conduct, driving under the influence, or stealing to support your habit.
  • Your obsession is causing problems in your relationships, such as fights with your partner or family members, an unhappy boss, or the loss of old friends.
  • You take do something that’s hurting you to avoid the feeling of withdrawal. If you go too long without it, you experience symptoms such as nausea, restlessness, insomnia, depression, sweating, shaking, and anxiety.
  • You’ve lost control over your involvement. You may want to stop doing it, but you feel powerless.
  • Your life revolves around the activity. You spend a lot of time thinking about it, figuring out how and when you will partake in the activity again.
  • You’ve abandoned activities you used to enjoy, such as hobbies, sports, and socializing, because of your drug use.
  • You continue the activity, despite knowing it’s hurting you.
  • Your partaking in the activity is pulling you away from what is good for you. You stopped praying and other spiritual activities that in the past had brought you peace and solace. 
I pray you are not dealing with any addictions, but if you are here are a few words of encouragement:
1.        You are worthy. Your worth is NOT based on your addiction.
2.        You can quit. You are a survivor. The addiction is weak and you are strong.
3.        You are loved. GOD LOVES YOU, so does anyone else really matter?
4.        Get help. Seek out someone you can trust or a group.
5.        Weed out the negative influences in your life. You deserve to be surrounded by positivity.

And if that wasn’t enough, here’s a word from your Lord, from the Glorious Quran:

They ask you about intoxicants and gambling. Say: There is great ithm (harm) in both. (2:219)

Believers! wine and games of chance, idols and divining arrows, are abominations devised by Satan. Turn away from them. (5:90)

Do not approach any immorality, open or covert. (6:151)



Monday, October 31, 2011

You Should Celebrate Holloween If...


1. You are a Pagan
2. You want to honor Samhain, the Celtic "lord of death"
3.You are interested in entertaining evil spirits who demand a feast and sweets
4. You are certain that if you don't entertain these spirits, they will reak havoc on you for a year to come
5. October 31st is your New Years Eve.
6. You need to thank the sun god for providing a good harvest
7. Sacrificing animals if fun
8. You would like to dress your child up as an animal because you know human spirits live in animals
9. You want to bob for apples to see into the future
10. You just can't stand the fact that ole' drunken Jack will lose his way to a final resting place if you don't carve a scary face in a pumpkin and put a candle in it!

Most people don't believe in any of this nonsense, yet they still celebrate. Why? Because it's fun? Because you don't want your kids to be left out? Educate your family on the real meaning of Holloween and perhaps it won't appear so appealing. Sometimes we choose ignorance over knowledge because we think it is easier, but is it? Perhaps it will be easy to free our minds by corrcting our actions. Say no to Halloween and other ridiculous holidays.

Guidance From the Quran

"When it is said unto them, 'Come to what Allah has revealed, come to the Messenger,' they say, 'Enough for us are the ways we found our fathers following.' What! Even though their fathers were void of knowledge and guidance?" (Qur'an 5:104)

"Has not the time arrived for the believers, that their hearts in all humility should engage in the remembrance of Allah and of the Truth which has been revealed to them? That they should not become like those to whom was given the Book aforetime, but long ages passed over them and their hearts grew hard? For many among them are rebellious transgressors." (Qur'an 57:16)

Monday, October 24, 2011

Puberty on facebook.com



 Yes, I have a facebook profile. I have a love/hate relationship with facebook.com. I love being able to stay in touch with family and friends who I would have otherwise lost contact because they are not in my immediate circle. I also find it cool to be able to connect with people I have never met who share similar interest. We can join forums, share knowledge or even support revolutions!
However, there are many very troubling aspects of facebook. To keep this post short, I will focus on just one: teens and preteens growing up IN FRONT OF THE WORLD. Teens, perhaps more-so than adults, happen to be very trustworthy of social networking sites. I suppose that is because of two elements:

1. They grew up in this digital world, and so facebook to them would be what my diary and photo album was to me as a teenager.

 2. Teens are naïve due to an immature brain (literally) and lack of experience in life.

I am constantly in awe at the gull teens have when posting on their statuses their personal business, photos and grotesque language. I’m the first to admit I was NO ANGEL as a teen. But only a handful of friends were a witness to my behavior. All of the incidents were isolated by time and the number of people who knew. The only way my parents or any gown up could find out about my mischief, was if someone told on me, and then it would still be their word against mine. But with facebook, the information is out there, and is owned by facebook.com. Any status update can be used against you, whether it’s now of in the future.

Facebook has revolutionized growing up. Many times I have checked my homepage and seen grotesque language and pictures posted by youth who are either my family or acquaintances. Other times, the postings are not grotesque, but they are deeply personal. They say things that I know the young person would not want thousands of people to know. But the truth is, unless you only have a friend list only of people you talk to on an everyday basis, you should not post these type of things because facebook’s privacy is very NOT private. Ever Google your name and see your profile pic? Even with the security settings, we must be more aware.

And it’s not just teens. I was just thinking how I’ve been “friending” a lot of Muslim Sisters – at least they say they’re Muslim sister hmm? - on my page. I do not personally know most of these sisters, yet they can view pictures of my baby shower and 2010 vacation. Would I show a stranger my hardcopy photo album? No, I would not. But I figure since I’m covered up, it okay. But, is it okay? Or is it just the norm that we’ve gotten used to in this digital age where private is now public and public is worldwide?
Food for thought.


Saturday, October 8, 2011

Spiritual Growth



Have you been reciting the same four surahs of the Quran or Biblical passages for the past ten years? Have you been using the same hadith to defend a certain thing you do/ do not do since you started practicing Islam? Are you a Christian that has never been to a different church and never met new people who may worship the Lord differently than you? Well, I think it is time for some spiritual growth.


Typical scenario: woman is searching for the meaning of life > she does much research looking into different religions > she finds Islam and is intrigued and enlightened > she takes classes, studying the deen day and night and is inspired > woman embraces Islam as her religion > woman finds a masjid, makes friends, marries, and Whamo! Contentment creeps in. She still loves the deen, but the vigor she once had to better herself and learn more about her religion has subsided.

We can find a million and one excuses to not learn more and then as the years go by, slowly but surely our contentment turns into stubbornness and arrogance. And this goes for converts and well as those born into the religion. A sister who was born into a Muslim family once told me, “When you are raised in a Muslim household, it is important that you rediscover the religion as an adult.” The sister warned, for those who do not continue to learn into adulthood, their Islam can be a confusion of culture, ritual and heresy.

It is important that we in the human race grow and develop. Stagnation of the mind and the spirit can be a very dangerous thing. This is how racism and prejudice become imbedded into a culture; when people don’t educate themselves, they will adhere to the ways of old, without any real reasoning or contemplation on their part.

Idleness is the enemy. Every second that goes by should be devoted to something constructive. Whether it is taking on a new language, painting, feeding the homeless or just good old fashioned reading, we much keep our minds active. If we train our minds to seek knowledge constantly in the secular world, we will automatically yearn to seek knowledge and understanding in the spiritual world. We will ask questions and we will enjoy looking for the answers.

And Surah Luqman makes it clear:

31:6      But there are, among men, those who purchase idle tales, without knowledge (or meaning), to mislead (men) from the Path of Allah and throw ridicule (on the Path): for such there will be a Humiliating Penalty.

31:7      When Our Signs are rehearsed to such a one, he turns away in arrogance, as if he heard them not, as if there were deafness in both his ears: announce to him a grievous Penalty.

Friday, September 30, 2011

TOTAL DOMINATION



I do not feel that I should do everything possible to overthrow any existing totalitarian state. It is not my moral responsibility to interject in every unethical occurrence in every nation on Earth. However, it is imperative to be educated on which injustices are being practiced in a totalitarian state, and to know if the government of such a state is violating certain human liberties. These basic liberties would include the right to sustain life without feeling threatened by one’s own government when working, pursuing an education, or pursuing a family life. Even after it is established that wrongs are being done, we should speak on it before we act on it. We should only act on it if we have the resources and manpower to do so without inflicting too much damage to our own military and economy.

Furthermore, no individual can confront a totalitarian state and change it; it takes a mass movement to do that. And because of extenuating economic conditions, America should choose its fights wisely. There is a United Nations and there are international laws, treaties, diplomacy and negotiations which can be used to settle internal disputes within a country and conflicts between countries. The best example would be our current war in Iraq, which started under the guise that we were to destroy Saddam Hussein’s totalitarian regime and his alleged weapons of mass destruction. Many Americans were so mislead about the conflict, they thought Hussein was behind the horrors of 9/11.

           September 11, 2001 was a terrifying day for Americans and many other citizens of the world. But it is important to know the facts and adhere to international laws, to ensure the best possible moral outcome for all people involved in such a conflict. The people of the United States were told that the U.S. had to invade Iraq because its leader, Saddam Hussein, had Weapons of Mass Destruction. Congress did not hold hearings or investigations. In the media, there was no discussion on whether the U.S. should or should not go to war. An international inspection team had been allowed to look for evidence of these WMD’ s but found nothing. President Bush and Secretary of State Collin Powell said the U.S. had proof and proceeded to bomb and invade Iraq. No Weapons of Mass Destruction were ever found.

As a result, the reason for the Iraq War changed to “getting rid of the totalitarian dictator, Saddam Hussein, and bringing democracy to the people of Iraq.” But in fact, for years the US supported and was a friend of Saddam Hussein and it never mattered how he governed his country. However, oil was a big concern for the United States. Iraq’s oil, which had been nationalized under Saddam Hussein, was privatized and now is controlled by foreign oil companies. Iraq did not threaten the United States. What was the real reason for the Iraq War? In this 2008 New York Times editorial article, the confusion and deception behind the war in Iraq is made clear:

It took just a few months after the United States’ invasion of Iraq for the world to find out that Saddam Hussein had long abandoned his nuclear, biological and chemical weapons programs. He was not training terrorists or colluding with Al Qaeda. The only real threat he posed was to his own countrymen.

Not only was it morally wrong to invade Iraq but also illegal and financially destructive to our country. The current war in Iraq/ Afghanistan / Pakistan is projected to cost 3 trillion dollars, most borrowed from China, thus adding to the national debt and deficit.  Hundreds of thousands of Iraqis have died. Several million Iraqis have fled to other neighboring countries or are homeless in Iraq. More than 4,000 US soldiers have been killed. This is the price of war. And yet, there have been little ethical/moral conquests. Are the Iraqi people better off now? Is the United States better off now?

On the surface, it might seem difficult to draw a parallel between the invasion of Iraq and the invasion of Nazi Germany. However, when history is more closely examined, there are similarities. In the case with the Nazi regime in the 1930s and 1940s, the US entered the World War II against Nazi Germany after it invaded many European countries. There was ethnic and religious discrimination against Jews in all European countries and in the United States before Nazi Germany existed. Many people in the US and Europe supported the racial superiority beliefs of Nazi Germany. At first these countries ignored the widespread racism and discrimination. Then they realized that world domination was the goal of Nazi Germany and at point became resolute on going to war against Germany, Japan and Italy. There are indications that the United States is trying to dominate the world today by interfering in other countries and “spreading democracy.”

So, what may seem to be ethical and moral strategy, might actually turn out to be economic and political strategy. Yet, whatever the political reasoning, interjection from nations opposing totalitarianism was necessary to end the horror of concentration camps. If the United States and other countries had not stood up against the fascist beliefs of Adolf Hitler, millions more human lives would have surely been brought to a senseless end. The Nazi party had achieved what Arendt branded as “total domination,” and it had to be destroyed on all levels before it spread any further. The idea of total domination is horrific in nature; totalitarianism is usually associated with violence, but the terrors going on in concentration camps were despicable beyond belief.

In this passage, Hannah Arendt explains the premise behind concentration camps:

Totalitarian domination attempts to achieve this goal both through ideological indoctrination- the testing ground in which the latter must prove itself- while the appalling spectacle of the camps themselves is supposed to furnish the “theoretical” verification of the ideology.   (Arendt, p. 124. pp. 2)

In conclusion, yes I stand up against totalitarian regimes.  However, war is a strong gesture, and we should try all other means of action before we go to war, even against a totalitarian regime. Sometimes the answers to our questions cannot be seen on the 6 o’ clock news. As citizens of a democracy and citizens of the world, it is our duty to be sure our government is acting in a way that is both moral and ethical. If we are not careful, the United States could be the next nation to be subscribing to ideals of Total Domination.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

End The WAR: Cut the Deficit


As the tenth anniversary of 9/11 has come and gone, the question on the minds of many Americans becomes, When is the war going to end? Personally, I have been asking this question since the war began, but now I am joined by many other fellow American citizens in these hard economic times. Whatever your opinion regarding the conflict in Iraq, Afghanistan and Pakistan- denoted “War on Terror”- it is evident that resolution would decrease our national debt and greatly decrease the troubling deficit. It is estimated that the war will cost over 3 trillion dollars total. Some sources even project the cost to be closer to 4 trillion.

When we think of war cost, we might think military payroll, transportation and housing; and also guns, tanks, bombs, aircraft, ships, missiles, and medical expenses for the troops. But there are many more costs attached to this war. There are the ongoing costs for veterans who might live sixty or seventy more years who have suffered debilitating mental and physical war wounds. Those costs can amount to billions.

There are billions of dollars being spent on not-so-obvious bills, like energy. The heat in the Afghanistan desert can reach up to 125° F, and air-conditioning is costing billions just to keep our troops somewhat comfortable. And in an NPR interview, the former chief logistician for Gen. David Petraeus explains:

"When you consider the cost to deliver the fuel to some of the most isolated places in the world — escorting, command and control, medevac support — when you throw all that infrastructure in, we're talking over $20 billion," Steven Anderson tells weekends on All Things Considered guest host Rachel Martin.”

There is also the issue of where the money is coming from. Unfortunately for the United States, it is all being borrowed, much of it from China. “We have borrowed virtually all of the money that has been used to pay for the Iraq and Afghanistan conflicts, and that has been very expensive, adding at least $1.5 trillion to our national debt," Linda Bilmes, an economist with Harvard University told the Huffington Post in a July interview.

President George W. Bush started the war in Iraq on the premise that Sadaam Hussein had concealed “weapons of mass destruction.” In the spring of 2005, it was officially announced that there were no weapons of mass destruction in Iraq. However, the troops remained and the costs continued to soar. Barack Obama was elected in 2008 and the war continued, on the premise of finding Osama Bin Laden “dead or alive.” Bin Laden was found and killed earlier this year. Why are we still fighting? Who or what are we looking for now? If there is no clear answer to this question, let’s get out before any more lives are lost. Let’s get out to save our troops, our economy, and our dedication to higher moral principles.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

What will YOUR legacy be?

How will I be remembered? Will they say...

 "That was a really humble sister. She always gave to the needy and was always upbeat."
"She had a great sense of humor and was serious about her deen."
"She was a selfless wife and mother, always putting her family before herself."
"She will be missed."
"May Allah grant her a spacious grave and forgive her of her sins."

OR will they say this,

"That sister was boastful and arrogant. She never gave charity, not even a smile."
"My mother never had time for us, she was always too busy doing things for herself."
"Who is that sister?"
"I think I saw her at the Masjid only for Eids."
"May Allah forgive her of her sins."

Surah 2:156 "To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return."


Everyone wants to be remembered as a "good person." But are we thinking about this fact when we are backbiting, lying and deceiving, being ungrateful, and doing lots of other things that are displeasing to OUR LORD. Are we thinking at all? Are we being conscience of our words and our actions? Our thoughts?  Or are we so wrapped up in all the petty things in this society of deception that we forget what is really important? .... Pleasing Allah! With another Ramadan past, God-willing, we have been purified, and we have become better people. 


I want my legacy to be one of selflessness and charity. One of intellect; both secular and religious. I want my good deeds to inspire others to do good deeds. And I want to be inspired by others to do good as well. I want my legacy to live on through my children and grandchildren, inshaAllah.


Some people believe we are living in  the END OF DAYS. Well, I say my last day could be today or in seventy years, but NOW is the best time to change my ways. 

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Let's Talk About the WAR



I admit, talking about the war in Iraq/Afghanistan (Lybia??) can be daunting. There's a lot of confusion and a lot of deception because the war is so highly political and economical. Okay, let me start over. I don't know much about the war, but I do know something ain't right!!

With the tenth anniversary of 9/11 in a few days, I'd like take a step back a take a good look on how America has gotten to this place of confusion. There are hate groups coming out of the shadows. Our economy is plundering, as millions of people are without work. Our young military troops are being killed and maimed and mentally scarred... and for what? Weapons of mass destruction? Oh yeah, that turned out to be a complete LIE.

I am currently taking a Political Science class in college, and will be taking it upon myself to learn more about the war and the oil money politics behind it. So, join me over the next few months as I explore why it seems that the U.S. seems to enjoy destroying the lands and lives of Muslims in the East in the name of democracy.


Saturday, August 27, 2011

Keeping an EYE on IRENE

Hurricane Irene, biggest in Philly since the 1970s

Hurricane Irene closes down East Coast
Hurricane Irene is on her way! I have been fortunate to not experience any natural diasters in all of my twenty seven years on this earth. All we've heard for the past three days was IRENE IRENE IRENE. Hurricane Irene is the biggest storm to hit the Eastern seaboard in fifty years. It's mere size is dauting, covering a sqare milage comparible to the continent of Europe. Now there are tonados stirring and floods from North Carolina on up the East Coast. I was excited at first. But I must admit my giddiness has turned into nervousnes. It is only a category 1 storm, so many of us did not take it seriously. But when the entire Jersey Coast is on a Mandatory evacuation and many parts of Lower Manhattan are evacuated for the first time in history, I start to worry.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

The Spirit of Ramadan

The English translation of the Qur'an spells it out quite clearly in Surah Al-Baqarah:

183. O you who believe! Observing As-Saum (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqun (the pious - see V.2:2).

184. [Observing Saum (fasts)] for a fixed number of days, but if any of you is ill or on a journey, the same number (should be made up) from other days. And as for those who can fast with difficulty, (e.g. an old man, etc.), they have (a choice either to fast or) to feed a Miskin (poor person) (for every day). But whoever does good of his own accord, it is better for him. And that you fast, it is better for you if only you knew.

So what if you are nursing? Or taking medication? Or sickly? Or traveling? How do you maintain the spirit of Ramadan? Should you punish yourself by fasting when your body is giving you all the signs that the fast would not be beneficial for you?

No food and No drink from sunrise to sunset
 Hey, I'm not talking about people who are just really hungry, no thats your tummy talking, go read some Qur'an and ask Allah for strength- keep up the good work, may Allah make the fast easy on you and increase your Iman!
I'm saying if you have a valid excuse for not fasting from food, how do you maintain the spiritual fast? When your stomach is aching, it is a big reminder that you need to be more humble, give charity, pray harder, and read qur'an and hadith. When you are fasting in these long summer days, you will be inclined to search for peace, inshaAllah. But if you're eating, there is little reminder it is even the blessed month of Ramadan! Especially if you are secluded from other Muslims for whatever reason.

Here are 5 tips to stay focused:

1. Wake up for Fajr, and ask Allah to increase your Iman

2. Make a schedule. ie: 5a.m., fajr 5:15 -6a.m. read surah Al-Baqarah... 12 p.m. lunch 12:30-1p.m. read Hadith from Sahih Muslim. Stick to your schedule! and if something comes up, have make-up slots in your day.

3. Go to iftars. Be around the fasters - support your brothers and sisters - learn with them, feed them! It would be benefit you to surround yourself with people who are serious about Islam. There are many benefits to be reaped from the fast, but if you can't withhold from food and drink, try to get some of that piety to rub off on you by attending iftars and taraweh prayers.

4. Eat light healthy meals high in Omega-3 fatty acids. This is BRAIN FOOD.

5. Restrict television, as a matter of a fact, just leave it off because it can be a MAJOR distraction, as can be the internet. However, if you have small children, it is easy to watch Islamic songs and documentaries that teach about Islam and Ramadan either on DVD or www.Youtube.com. And the internet can be a great way to learn surahs of the qur'an on sites like http://www.mounthira.com/ and listen to lectures.

6. Think before you speak or act! It's Ramadan Muslims! Don't backbite! Don't cuss! Don't gossip or tell lies! DO be nice. DO help a person in need. DO feed a hungry person. DO go out of your way to say and do things in your everyday life that are pleasing to Allah. DO SMILE :-))

Okay Muslims, just thought I'd give a little inspiration in these last ten day of Ramadan 2011. May Allah reward the fasters! And may Allah reward those who persevere for the sake of pleasing Allah! Ameen.



SHAHADA...SALAT...ZAKAT...SAWM...HAJJ...
declaration of faith...prayer...charity...fasting...pilgrimage

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Today's Muslim Woman

Okay, so the title sounds a bit cheesy, or maybe even a little too "media friendly", but don't fear. I have no intention of pigeon-holing American Muslim women and declaring "who we are" or "what we want" because the beauty of being a Muslimah in America is that we are all so different. We are different in our perceptions of Islam and we are different in our dress and family values. However, we have major similaries: we believe that there is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. Ameen!

So actually this post is more a question than an answer. What is important to YOU, beautiful Muslim woman? Or the Muslimahs you know? I have met many sisters that believe education is paramount. They believe getting a B.A. or even a Ph. D. is a necessity before embarking on the path towards bullding a marriage and family. They will often echo the words of the Prophet Muhammad (saws) "Seek knowledge, even in China" and "Seek Knowledge, from the cradle to the grave."

Being self-sufficient is important to many Muslim Women. They hold the example of the Prophet Muhammad's (saws) first wife Khadijah who was a prominent businesswoman in her time. She was also the most beloved of all the Phophet's wives.

Then there are the Muslimahs that believe that finding a husband and starting a family is the paramount for the Muslim woman. These women have a great deal of evidence from Qur'an and Sunnah that for Muslim women, our blessings will be recieved in the home. "The Prophet (saws) stated: 'Whoever chooses to follow my tradition must get married and produce offspring through marriage (and increase the population of Muslims) so that on the day of resurrection I shall confront other Ummah (nations) with the (great) numbers of my Ummah."

Many Muslim women in the West find a happy medium, trying to balance work, education and married life. But, being one of those women-ha ha!- it can be exhausting! I'm just being truthful. So what do I want for my daughters? I don't know. Perhaps I can raise them the best I know how according to this beautiful deen of Al-Islam and just pray Allah has Mercy on my girls, guiding them on the path that's best for them.

Your opinion is appreciated!



Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Moving Beyond the Hijab

Yes, I have decided to change the name of my blog from 'Digging for Knowledge' to 'Not Just Another Hijab Blog.' I have nothing against hijab/fashion blogs, in fact I follow a few myself. However, as a Muslimah, I find that the discussion amongst and about Muslimahs is much too often about hijab.

What is the correct hijab? To hijab or not to hijab? What colors are acceptable for women? How much of a woman has to be covered? What does hijab say about a Muslim woman's faith? What age to start our daughters wearing hijab? What are the latest hijab fashions?

All of these questions are quite valid, and a mountain of opinions are floating around the web on these topics. So, I just wanted to let everyone know that this is NOT just another hijab blog, because there are enough of those. My blog is to wander and explore a variety of topics; everything from faith to history to current events.

So, I thank all of you for being interested in reading a blog that is NOT centered around the way Muslim women dress :)

Judge Not!